Enablers for Success: Do You Want To Be A Good Husband?

Do You Want To Be A Good Husband?

Over the past month I have witnessed two marriage break ups and a corporate affair happening right under my nose and all cases it was due to the unfaithfulness of the husband. So what better time to write about how to get the spice in your life.

I have been married now for 21 years and have been in our relationship for 30 years and still madly in love as if it was the first day we met.

So what is the secret? It’s pretty easy. If you give plenty you get plenty back. Here is some pointers for those males out there that may need some help.

1. Ensure that you honor your vows. Till death do we part, in the good times and in bad times. Do you remember those words. Faithfulness, loyalty and honesty are what relationships are built on. It is your duty to provide for your family. You should never expect your wife to take on that role. Motherhood and caring for a husband and home usually takes priority for her. She is the emotional rock that can offer you so much. When you took your vows you agreed to always put your family needs before your own so you must honor that responsibility.

2. Be pleasant and show her respect. Be warm, kind, positive, understanding and friendly. “Treat her the way that you want to be treated”. Always arrive home from work with a smile on your face. Just because your day may be stressful doesn’t mean her day wasn’t.

3. Communication is the key to a good and solid marriage. Women also expect honesty in men. Honesty is what builds trust in your relationship with your woman. She may even forgive your mistakes but only if you are honest with her and promise not to do it again.

Women like their men to be open to them at all times and not keep them in the dark about what is going on in their man’s life. Find time to sit and talk with your wife on a daily basis even if it is during the Dinner time.

If you let things bottle up and feel that you cannot share with your wife then your marriage is in trouble. Be a good listener when she talks. Your wife too wants someone to listen to her and empathize with what’s going on in her life.

Listen avidly to your wife’s complaints. Woman cannot resist a man who understands her moods, attitude, feelings, values, likes and dislikes. This would encourage her to open up with you and don’t keep secrets. Good Communication helps in building trust and strengthens your relationship.

4. Show your love and affection to her as often as possible. Every woman is a sucker of affection. If you only give them that stuff to get to bed, your wife is going to notice and think it’s insincere.

A good husband will appreciate his wife and will notice her, even after twenty or fifty years of marriage. She needs you to notice when she gets that new haircut or dresses up in something sexy for you to come home to. If you fail to notice what she is doing for you too many times, she may just count it as fruitless and quit.

Gift your partner something fancy when she least expects it. Surprise her by planning a trip, preparing a nice dinner, giving a bunch of her favorite flowers or taking her out for shopping. Every Woman likes to be pampered. Women, one way or the other, are nothing but over grown babies who constantly need care.

But every woman has their likings, give things what she likes instead of forcing your likes on her and show her that you care and would be always there for her. Never forget the special days in her life.

Make an effort to initiate spontaneous affection with your wife. Build the companionship by doing things together whether it is a common interest or hobby. Give her a hug or surprise kiss and tell her how much you love her. Hold hands with her when you’re out together. These small gestures show your wife that you’ve thought of her and help you reinforce your commitment to your wife.

5. Every Woman wants her partner to be reliable and be there for her when she needs her. Support your wife in all stages of life. Provide reassurance when she is feeling down. Do not belittle her or hurt her ego. If she is a working woman understand her work pressures and problems. Be proud of her on her accomplishments and do not forget to complement her.

Be available for her when she needs a shoulder to cry or when she needs support from you. Let her know that you care for her. When you are not near her at least make a phone call to her even if you talk to her for only a minute or two.

When you come back after work or on weekend do things with her or help her in whatever way possible. She would appreciate even if you are not much of help because you are tried to help her. Be a friend to her. When you don’t agree with her views respectfully let know that you don’t agree with reasons.

6. A woman need to feel safe and secured with her man. She needs to feel that when he is with her no one can harm her. You don’t need to be a muscle man but at least when you are with her others should not be making a pass at her. She wants her man to behave like a man and treat her like a lady when she is with you.

Do You Want To Be A Good Husband?

7. Give your partner space. As a Husband you need to understand that your wife has a life other than you also. She has her Parents, friends and colleagues who too are part of her life. She also may have some hobbies or passions he is involved in. Don’t expect her undivided attention. Don’t stop her if he wants to go out and hang out with her friends sometimes or engage in a hobby or want to spend some time with her parents.

8. Sexual intimacy is one of the most essential things in any marriage. Good Sex helps to strengthen your emotional and physical attraction to her. Please your wife in bed and be faithful to her. No woman would tolerate a cheating partner. Good sex plays a vital part when it comes to a satisfying relationship and if you are not skilled in bed that is going to be a major turn off.

To finish of cherish what you have. If it’s not right fix it. No one said things would be easy. Spend time looking after your loved one and you will both prosper from your relationship.